Shame is, next to anger, one of the most corrosive, energy depleting and toxic negative emotions that one can harbor in one's body. If you reconnect to this emotion inside you as you consider an event or incident that has "imprinted" you with this toxicity I think you will recognize the consequences of having this inside you. They include such things as: 1. Feeling hateful towards one's self. 2. Feeling like a horrible or incorrigible human being. 3. Feelings of terrible guilt and remorse. 4. Perhaps feeling responsible for having caused the unfortunate incident that you are recalling. 5. Feeling like there is nothing that you can do to change or reverse things. 6. Feeling hopelessly flawed or bad. 7. Perhaps feeling like an outcast, or like avoiding or engaging others. 8. Perhaps a feeling of anxiety at the thought of making any further decisions for yourself in your life i.e. paralyzed, and so on. Clearly, this short list is evidence that this emotion, that many call "shame", is highly toxic to you. Is it not? The net result of carrying this toxicity in your body is that it literally "seduces" you into "hating" yourself. The consequence of hating yourself manifests as many harmful behaviors that you choose to unleash on yourself i.e. poor care over your emotional or physical health (i.e. smoking, excessive drinking, use of drugs or other substances etc.), poor choice of relationships, lack of protective boundaries against others who are trying to harm or exploit you, and other "suicidal" tendencies. The interesting thing about this toxicity we call "shame" is that many have allowed themselves to be seduced into thinking that it is supposed to: Help one become aware of their flaws or mistakes, so that, They can be avoided or corrected in future, so that, One can learn to "do it right" the next time, so that, One can feel better i.e. like a good human being, happy, at peace, calm, liking one's self and feeling like a worthy human being. In other words many "think" unconsciously that "shame" makes them feel like a good human being, happy, at peace, calm, liking one's self and feeling like a worthy human being. Does that feel right to you? Sounds ridiculous when I put it that way doesn't it? Well, if you see that, you have taken the first step to completely eradicating this toxicity from your life once and for all. The benefits that will accrue from this will be such things as: reclaiming your vital life energy, your health, your self esteem, your self worth, a sense of "I'm OK", and much more. If you are feeling inspired by all of this then you might be interested in entertaining an introductory consultation at no risk to you. Kindly visit the web link below and listen to the message I've posted there for you. |
